I'm really not in the dating market, obviously, so most of what's on datingish doesn't appeal to me. But there are those titles that stick out. The recent one was about not preforming oral sex and that being a deal breaker or not.

I just couldn't believe some of the comments.

I know that sexual compatibility is important and all, but if you're not comfortable with something, you're not comfortable with it. end of story. I can't believe people would further the idea that, if you really want to find a guy, you better be willing to preform oral. Oh, really? Be forced to do something your not comfortable with to get a guy? That's a great message, really. Just great.  It's so full of win, it's not even funny.

I also don't see how her dislike of oral sex, both giving and receiving, means she must have a psychological problem? It's called a PREFERENCE. Gosh. Dur. Not rocket science.

Seriously.

Datingish is full of winners.

Sarcasm intended.

I'm just awful. Awful at everything. Okay, so here's a mini rant, for ya. My weight loss challenge was something I was really looking forward too. I was hoping to drop like 10 lbs. I know, I know. But doing Jillian Micheals 30 day shred, I thought, would DEFINITELY help. So, I broke a rule and weighed myself that first week and I gained weight. Then I told my sister about it and she told me that, whoever the guy is who created her diet plan, said that doing workouts like that wasn't a good idea, because you'd just build muscle and the scale wouldn't translate. BUT, i thought gaining muscle wouldn't translate to too much weight on a scale. That just didn't make sense to me but, hey, I'm not the expert, so who knows *rolls eyes*. I just shouldn't have gotten on the scale. People lose up to 20 lbs doing that. Who says I can't? Geez. I wasn't really going for 20 lbs, just 10. At this point, I'd be happy with even 1 flipping lb, for crying out loud. well, I'd be happy for a loss, but I would beat myself up if it really ended up being just 1lb.  1lb in 6 weeks is just bad.

Anyway, moving on. I haven't been on the scale since, but I've been feeling pretty good. The thing is, we haven't splurged like at all since Thanksgiving... until Christmas Eve and day. Oh my goodness. Ice cream, about 3 gallons, sugar cookies galore, pies and coke. I've been very overwhelmed and I feel awful. This is where cutting myself some slack comes in. It's been 4 days. The sweets are, almost, gone. we still have a ton of sugar cookies, but sugar cookies really don't tempt me as much. The ice cream is still around. We have a ton of that. The coke is almost gone and I'm not going to have any more coke until after Jan. 5th. Coke just creates a big bloat fest and, hello, I'd like some new jeans. Coke is not my friend for that. Stupid coke. But we had extra because we didn't get together with some family, because a baby was born on Dec. 24th. Yep, my cousin finally had her baby (and for being, supposedly, 2.5 weeks overdue, 7lbs 10oz isn't a bad weight).

I just need to work out tomorrow, drink water, stop eating so many sweets, stick to 1 bowl of ice cream a day, maybe, and I should be good.

I've just been getting down on myself and I hate that. Ugh.

In other news, I'm getting excited for my Birthday. I think that, no matter what age I'm turning, I'll always be excited for my birthday. Maybe that's easy to say since I'm only mid twenties, but still.  Whatever, I'm looking forward to it... and i'm totally getting the miles out of it, this year. My actual birth day is on a Monday, when everyone is working. So, I'll be celebrating with just Bri, but Sunday and some other day that week. So, yay! And I really hope, *crosses fingers*, that i can get my hair cut and, possible, get highlights. It's been a really long time. I'm so hoping for that. But we'll see!

 

I would so badly like to share Christmas pictures with all of you, only 3 really, but xanga won't let me. All I get is a red x.

I can't change my "theme". I can't even take it off of "themes". I can't put music on my page. I can't do anything different to my page, like everyone else seems to do.

Xanga is becoming facebook. A frustrating experience, where things don't work or make any sense.

Why, xanga, why?

Ugh.

Dont' worry, I still like xanga more than facebook, but it's just as irritating to me sometimes. Grr.

Weekly Challenge:

Stick to 1 serving at, at least, 1 meal.

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Monday's Challenges:

4 glasses of water

Measure your food for 1 meal

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Tuesday's Challenge:

5 glasses of water

20 lunges

20 squats

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Wednesday's Challenges:

5 glasses of water

20-30 minute workout of your choice

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Thursday's Challenges:

5 glasses of water

Move every hour

Spend 5-10 minutes working on your abs.

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Friday's Challenges:

5 glasses of water

Reduce portion size for 1 meal.

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Weekend Challenges:

Write down one healthy habit you want to work hard on in the next year.

Write down 5 things you love about your body.

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(10 points for all challenges, except weekly one where it's 10 pts a day, if done).

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Also, feel free to share how you did on last weeks challenges. I wasn't completely successful with "trying something new" every day. I tried to start brushing my teeth 2 x's a day, flossing every day and using mouthwash. Also, I tried to avoid sweets for breakfast and before bed. My body just can't handle it and then I get stomach aches (but, lets not talk about today, when I had apple pie for breakfast! I'm fine, but I did it for another reason. We can't use up many dishes, because our kitchen sink is broke and we have no plastic bowls. Apple pie was simple and didn't use anything other than a fork. I did want cereal!) But I did stick to it some days and I was pretty happy and it just made more sense. Anyone else want to share what they tried that was new? Feel free.

Anyway, Have a good week, everyone!

@missibarraclough

@aidensmommy

@xcntrychicka

@cecilliamarie

@tiyalee

@lookingpro

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Merry Christmas, everyone!

Yes, finally! Probably because I FINALLY got all the shopping done.

Even for the cousins. I thought It would be easy shopping for a baby and a 2 year old. Not. And we've just been on the go, go, go. Last night, we did grocery and Christmas shopping at Meijer. Eh, one stop shop, you know. It wasn't like super busy, they just only had 2 lanes open, besides the self checkouts. We were in line forever. I even joked that one person could stand in line, another one go do their entire shopping and the line still wouldn't have moved much.  I was just being funny, it wasn't a big deal. Nature of the beast. Tis the season to be PATIENT. But, a lady behind us was super irritated and called meijer, on her cell phone, and asked why they only had 3 lanes open a few days before Christmas, lol. after that, lanes started lighting up. Yikes.

Today, my hubby stayed home, so the morning was really slow and I think it threw brianna off or something because she was SUPER whiny and annoying. Oh. My. Word. As my gramma put it, "mommy's either going to run away or change her name". LOL. Yep. No...  But, we went all over the place. It was fun, though. Even if people drive like maniacs.

Now, I just have one more thing to wrap and then I can't wait for Christmas day!

I always thought last minute shopping was for those who weren't organized and was for the birds, quite honestly. However, I like that I only have a few days to wait for her to open her gifts, as opposed to waiting around for the whole month. So, I kinda liked doing last minute shopping (even though we were a little unorganized. That's okay. New experiences are fun).

So now it officially feels like Christmas! Ahhh... *sigh of relief and excitement*

Happy, early, Christmas Eve.

We're going to my aunts, tomorrow night, and the rest of the day is spent AT HOME, no shopping, and making 78 sugar cookies and decorating them. Should be fun.

I'm not the best in these types of social situations. You know, the ones where you only know 2 people and they know everyone else. Well, today I get to experience that. Originally, i felt pressured into for 2 reasons. 1. My mom wanted me and Bri to go. She always wants to show off her granddaughter and I can completely understand (more so, probably, when I have grand kids and hopefully that's many, many, many, many years down the line. ). 2. Brianna so badly wanted to bowl. Oh yes, we're going bowling, did I mention that?  Real bowling, not kinnect bowling, which is all she knows.

See, my mom works at a lawyers office doing filing and junk. They are actually hiring, I think, so I thought this would be a good chance to scope out all the people who work there, maybe in hopes that I, too, could work there one day. You know, just sayin. Anyway, Brianna, being only 3, is considered a liability, so she can't bowl.  Meh, it makes sense. But good luck to me tring to explain that to her, when we actually get there. See, I've already tried a couple times. Her response?
 

"Too bad, I'm bowling!"

(remember how I used to worry about her speech? Yeah, it's not a problem anymore! Seriously. Now we can't get her to STOP talking, haha)

So, here's to hoping for no toddler tantrums at the bowling alley. We shouldn't be there long. Maybe just one game and some pizza, so that shouldn't last too long, right?

But, I'm still nervous about meeting new people. I don't know how many there are. *gulp*. And I hope and pray that this bowling alley isn't busy. My husband has been to this particular one and his only comment was, "better have your pepper spray".

Thanks, babe, real reassuring. Since we're with a group, I'm sure we'll all be fine. lol But, still, what on earth does he mean by that?

Anyway, my mom will be here soon and Brianna is actually cooperating by not napping all afternoon. She just woke up and it was less than an hour. Oh well, that's what we get from a 3 hour nap yesterday!

Have a good day everyone!

My mom asked me, last week sometime, if we wanted to kind of split Christmas shopping for the kids, the cousins. My husband and I agreed to it. I specifically asked him BEFORE I answered and he agreed it was a good idea. See, one family has almost 4 kids (she's still pregnant, about two weeks overdue, with baby #4), the other family, like us, only has 1. So, we're shopping for 5 kids and that can be a little expensive. lol

My mom is buying for the boys. And we're buying for the girls. I just like buying for girls. Then we're just all putting our names on all 4 gifts. Anyway, that's two a peice and then, when the baby comes, who knows. We're meeting with them on the 26th. I asked my husband how he wanted to do the shopping, because we have grocery shopping to do too. His response was that he wasn't expecting to have to buy an alternator and we did a $300 pay day advance to buy it, which means $300 is taken out of our paycheck this next time, plus the fee, and this is our small check. So, he was going to let me be just as stressed as him (yes, he said that) and not answer me yet, because he didn't know if we could truly buy for them or not.

Well, goody. Because here's the thing. i'm pretty sure no one is like us, waiting till the last minute to buy gifts and they've probably already purchased Bri's gifts. I'm not going to go and not buy anything, and have all of them buy for our child. That's not fair. And my mom only bought for the boys, so what's she going to do? That pretty much screws us all and that's not right. it's not like we have to spend a ton of money, my mom spent $14 total on the boys. I already feel bad enough that we're splitting this, because I don't think any other family is splitting costs, but I'm sure they aren't spending that much, either. I don't know.

So, now what should I do? If I just cancel, they may have already spent money. If I don't, and we don't get anything, everyone's going to be mad. So what's the point of going? I'm sure he'll sing a different tune when we're shopping, but I was pretty irritated with him for saying what he did.

So, I got on our bank account and did a little budgeting. First of all, I added up all our "expenses" and then added up how much we got paid the last two paychecks. Um, we should DEFINITELY have some left over, but why don't we? Yeah, I don't know either. Except that when he eats fast food and goes to movies, THAT ADDS UP. Holy cow. He spent $26 in a couple days on food and movies. Um, that's a lot for a just two days! And yet I get blamed. *shakes head*.

So, I'm making a new budget and we're going to stick to it. He doesn't think I help? Well, I've tried this before and, obviously, we're not sticking to the budget and I DON'T have a debit card, I DONT' spend money AT ALL! Grr.

Anyway, That's the little predicament I'm in. I'm sure it will work out for good, though. I hope. Otherwise, I'll be pretty angry. And next year, this crap isn't happening, bum car or no bum car. Good grief. 

I'm just a bit irritated, right now.

My daughter really wanted to help me put the garbage cans in the garage, so I got her dressed and put her coat on, not zipped. We were just going out to get the dumb garbage cans, after all. Well, she wanted to play with her somewhat deflated ball that hardly bounces, then sidewalk chalk, then tag, then this and that. I tried to distract her with a game of red light green light that ended up in the house.  We were outside less than 10 minutes, as I wasn't planning on staying outside and we didn't have hats and gloves.

Fast forward to after her nap when she wanted to go out and play red light, green light. I said fine, we'd go out and my gramma looks at me and says, "Yeah, and zip her coat up!" in a really snotty, obnoxious way she does, as if I'm the biggest idiot in the world.

I just LOVE being misunderstood or situations being misunderstood and being treated like an idiot. Good gosh, how have I survived the last couple of winters without her magical advice?

Then, at dinner, my daughter did really well. Despite her protests that she didn't like sloppy joes, she ate her entire sloppy joe. I felt for her, as sloppy joes are not my favorite food either. Then she wanted bread, butter and jelly. I gave her a tiny piece so when she wanted more, I gave her more. She just ended up playing in the butter and jelly, with her hands, and making a mess. To which my gramma said we just needed to learn that we should only give one serving, not seconds.

As my mom pointed out, there will be times when she wants seconds... and she actually WANTS it. ANd there's other times she won't. I'm not going to just deny her seconds.

But the all knowing one says she should never have seconds, because a few times she's played with her food and made a mess, which, by the way, can be washed off.

Geez oh pete, people make a huge deal over friggin messes. No wonder I am the way I am. Although, I try hard not to yell at my daughter over spilled milk, it's sometimes hard. But any little dirt out of place is a like a catastrophe and it's really, beyond irritating at this point.

And now I'm at a point where I want everyone to leave me alone, because I swear I'll bite someones head off. Grrr.

Goodness sakes alive, where did December go? lol

So, one would think that, in the week before Christmas, I would have all my shopping done. Uh, no. I don't. And, really, I have no idea HOW I'm going to get it all done. My mom has a pretty busy week. My sister has a pretty busy week. As a nurse, sometimes you have to work holidays. Well, she has Christmas eve and Christmas day off, but she works Thursday and Friday. She works all night tonight, sleeps Tuesday, has Wednesday off and goes right back to two more 12 hour shifts. I'm sure the last thing she wants to do is take me shopping in the last minute madness, even if one of the gifts is for her hubby, lol.

Oh well. Hopefully my husband and I will do shopping. We get paid on the 22nd. Woohoo! My husband and I, together, have done ZERO shopping for my daughter. He's been kind of, you know, trying to get our stupid truck up and running. He purchased an alternator, installed it himself and... IT STILL WON'T RUN. So, I'm sure next up is the battery. Even though the dumb thing is less than a year old, crap happens. lol  Hopefully it's the battery, because  if it's not, the dumb truck will have to wait till Tax time, cause we don't have the money for this crap. But, you know, it happens. I'm just thankful for my gramma's car, otherwise my hubby wouldn't be able to work. Praise the Lord for that!

Anyone else watch the survivor finale, last night? I was rooting for Ozzy or Sophie, so I'm glad one of my people won. So shocked that sophie beat ozzy, but I tend to root for the underdog.... even though I liked ozzy and thought he deserved to win. And I really felt bad for Brandon. I mean, I think people take this show a little too seriously. And I don't mean just the people who are on it. Yeah, I don't like every move a person makes but, HELLO, It's a GAME. making big moves is fun and entertaining to watch and I happened to like Cochran for that. I'm always a tad bit annoyed by the bitter jury and so I loved edna's comments to the jury. Anyway, I was sad for Brandon and for Cochran, but happy for Sophie and Ozzy. At the end of the day, these are REAL people. Sad that people get so disappointed and downright hateful over a game show. It's a game, hello! That's all. And sometimes games aren't fair. Big whoop.

Well, tonight's activity for us is to read Christmas books... If Only I could find them. I just CAN'T believe that I misplaced them or a certain little girl misplaced them. I haven't read them all month, waiting for this night and... they are gone and  I feel like I searched every logical place. Guess it's time to check the illogical places and maybe they'll be there, lol.