September 21, 2013

  • Soooo Important!

    First of all, thank you to those of you who left such nice comments on my last post. I am sick with a cold, and supposed to be napping, but I can't breathe and, therefore, I'm up... thinking! What am I thinking about? Well, here goes...

    Having kids is such a HUGE responsibility. Yet, many people just jump right into parenthood without much of a clue. I mean, yeah, there's no perfect time and you can't ever be "ready", but there are also good indicators of BAD times to have kids.

    If you think having a child will help your struggling relationship, wrong. If you can't afford to have a baby, not good. If you don't have space for a baby, not good. Now, if something happens and a baby comes into the picture, you make do and you figure it out, but to actively STRIVE for a baby? Not good...

    For a long time, I decided that I just wanted to be a mom. I really wanted to be the typical stay at home mom, maybe who used cloth diapers and made her own baby food, etc... However, that didn't pan out. Things suddenly went in a spiral for me.

    You realize maybe a little too late, that the person you just created life with is lazy and/or isn't all with it. You don't have as much support and help as you imagined having. I didn't. I still don't. I mean, my husband does do stuff, but we're not a team. When he would get sick, the world was over and I had to cater to his every whim. When I am sick? Tough. I got a kid to take care of.

    I don't care what your job is. At the end of the day, if you have a kid, you take care of your kid. I don't care if youe wife or husband stay home, once you're home from work, you are 100% supposed to be involved in YOUR kids life. I don't care what excuse you can make up! You dont' get a free pass to be a lazy son of a bitch. You come home from work and you PARENT your child. You don't leave that on your spouse.

    There are plenty of single parents who DO IT ALL. Why do you get to be a lazy ass? Hmm? There are moms and dads out there working 2 damn jobs to support their kids, still come home and have to take care of their kids. If you are whining about being tired from work, SUCK IT UP, PRINCESS. You created life. You are now responsible for that life.

    And for dads, for the love of god, appreciate the sacrifices the mother of your children made to bring them into the world. Pregnancy and labor aint no joke and it's serious stuff. For me, it was hellish at times. The least you can do is help out a bit and suck it up. Deal with the emotions and hormones. You're not having to personally do it, so be a man and HELP OUT in whatever way you can and don't bitch about it. All you really had to do was orgasm, I think you can put in effort somewhere else and, you know, be a decent human being.

    bottom line, you create life, you take care of it. Don't leave it up to someone else to do it. And if you can't manage that, then take precautions to keep it from happening. For the love of God, REALIZE HOW IMPORTANT IT IS AND DON'T DO IT. If you're truly NOT ready, DON'T DO IT.

    That is all for today. Phew.

Comments (7)

  • I second the motion.

  • Good post Megan. Get well soon.

  • rest as much as you can. drink fluids. take something for whatever your symptoms are. and it is proven fact that chicken soup does work.
    as for the rest of what you said...well said.

  • I hope you feel better, both in terms of venting and in terms of getting better/cold.

  • If this were the old xanga I'd give you two minis; one with the gold e-props for content, and the chicken soup one so you can feel better soon.

  • I sure hope you're feeling better!! And I hope your husband ended up helping out. I absolutely HATE when a parent feels like they are 'babysitting' when they are taking care of their child. It's not babysitting. It's parenting! (((hugs)))

  • Nice. :)

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