March 23, 2012

  • Reputation

    For the record, I'm supposed to be cleaning, before we have movie night, but I'm taking a much needed break to get this off my chest.

    I read a post on here, today, thanks to the wonderful rec feature, back from like the 13th. Anyway, glad I missed out on all that drama *rolls eyes*. I did notice a couple comments though that I wish I could unread, as it attacked a friend of mine on here. So, I'd like to say a few things.

    This all reminded me of a quote I saw somewhere that said something like this, "Reputation is what man thinks of us. Character is what God knows of us". It wasn't exactly that, but something similar. So, I know that our "reputation" isn't nearly as important, but still has a big impact on us. Especially when we get a "reputation" through rumors.

    In fact, I recently had to deal with this, too. Only, it was on facebook. I only mentioned it in a prot. post, so only a few people will know what I'm referring too. All I'll say is something was put out there, people commented and I looked like the "bad guy" and it insinuated something that I didn't want people to think I did, when I didn't. I was hurt. I cried. I was very angry and I wanted to delete my facebook, thinking that it just wasn't all that important anymore. Difference, of course, is that my facebook is filled with people I actually know, vs. Xanga where no one really knows me. I mean, you know a lot about me, but you've never met me. still, though, it would bother me if someone started a "rumor", saying things about me... full of lies... and expecting people to just believe it.

    So, when I see that happening to a friend... I get a little pissed off.

    The only other thing I'll say is this

    If you don't want people looking at your pictures, don't post them

    *I took a break from this post, ended up cutting my finger pretty bad and now I'm typing with a blasted bandaid on it. Man this is annoying!*

    Yes, the person may just find you hot or cute and wants to see more pics of you. big deal. If you feel THAT threatened by them, block them or take your damn pictures down. But don't go around saying how they're somehow stalkerish or something. Don't try and ruin their reputation. I've known this person for years. not a stalker. not a creep. geez. chill out.

    If you post pictures of yourself, don't be suprised if people want to see them. And don't be surprised if people find you attractive and WANT to look. Instead of freaking out, just be flattered! winky But seriously, you have more control over who sees your page. It's like me freaking out over seeing "north carolina" so much on my page and just complaining about it vs., say, just going back on sign in lock.

    Just cause you see their "footprint" a lot, doesn't mean they are completely crazy over you and want to stalk you! whatevah I swear, people get so overdramatic about footprints. Or, at least, not all of them. winky

    Just sayin'. And what's MORE irritating is how easily people can spew this stuff, without letting others defend themselves. Think before you speak. Who cares if this is "just xanga". Watch what you say about people. And for the love of goodness, don't believe everything you hear. whatevah 

    Okay, that's all for now. my finger hurts.

Comments (9)

  • Im always so scared people are gonna think im a stalker on here because i only read about 5 blogs and i go through my list every morning and every night and if theyve posted i read them. so if a person posts everyday then i read them everyday. but if i dont see that theyve posted then i dont go on their page.

  • Yeah! If someone puts up pictures publicly, others are NOT stalkers for looking! That's what all the public and private options are for! You are right!

  • Yeah I don't really see how somebody can post something, and then get upset that somebody looks at it? Ridiculous. 

  • Guess it's easy for me.  I check my email for subscription updates, go look, and generally, don't go back.  Agree with you the simplest solution to the "picture stalker" is not to post them to begin with.  And actually my wife doesn't like my posting pictures online.  I had a heck of a time getting her permission to put a few up on Facebook so her niece's in the Philippines could see them.

  • I GOT POSTED ON THE DIRTY -- YOU HAVE NOTHING TO COMPLAIN ABOUT.! YOU WANT TO TALK REPUTATION AND CHARACTER DEFAMATION? TRY BEING CALLED A DRUG ADDICT AND AN ESCORT AND HAVING YOUR EMPLOYER BRING THE SITE TO YOUR ATTENTION... THEN YOU CAN WHINE TO ME.

  • Sage, solid, and sound advice. Good post! =)

  • @laetitia_luv - So because something crappy happened to you, you now own the rights to be upset about anything on the internet?  Ridiculous.  Quit being so damned entitled & self absorbed.  Just because you've gone through something doesn't mean that what others go through is any less important. Besides - she was vague.  She didn't share the details.  How the hell do you know that (were it a stupid competition) you have the market cornered?  (Corner pun intended - escort, corner.  Yep.  ) 

    Quit "yelling" in cap lock & going onto other people's pages giving them a hard time.  Sounds like you need a life. 

  • I agree.  If people don't want to have others interested in their pictures, they shouldn't show them.  Or they should post them on private for only a selected audience. 

    From what you described, it sounds like someone has issues (not your friend). 

  • @MyTwoCentss - TLTR. do not care.

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