February 16, 2012

  • Give More Than You Take

    It's not about me, it's about YOU.

    Something I've learned that should be so freaking obvious.

    I'm a pretty selfish person. No, don't give me the, "no you're not" crap. Yes, I am. You don't know me that well, then. I'm selfish. It's part of the human condition. We're all selfish to some extent or another. I've just been super selfish and I've since learned an important lesson.

    It's not about what we can get, but about what we can give. I feel I have a lot to give. I've been through things and I believe that God had a reason, for me to help others. I consider myself fairly compassionate. I consider myself to be a good listener (though some would love to debate with me on that). Instead of keeping things to myself and dealing with them privately, dealing with them publicly can help OTHER PEOPLE. I never knew what my "gifts" were. My God given gifts that were unique to me. To some degree, I still don't. But this is a start.

    I've loved getting support from some of you. I really have. I understand, though, that some things I've shared just isn't for some of you and sometimes there's going to be a hard night and I'm alone and that's just how it is. BUT THAT'S OKAY. Because my main focus shouldn't be on MYSELF, but on how I treat OTHERS. I shouldn't EVER have expectations of getting support. Though I appreciate it, I really do, I don't need it and I don't expect it.

    But I will SUPPORT YOU. I will be the listening ear. I will be the shoulder to cry on. I'll be whatever YOU need and I expect nothing in return. When I tell people that, I FREAKING MEAN IT. I love all my friends. And the thing about Love is that it gives more than it takes. I'll use whatever I've been handed in life, to make someone else feel better, put a smile on faces, whatever I have to. And I swear I will.

    I know where my focus should be and that's where it will stay!

Comments (11)

  • This is an excellent post! I don't know you, but I hope that everyone reads this!

  • I'm a believer in "what goes around, comes around," or "paying it forward" or "karma" or whatever you like to call it.  There are times we're all selfish, yes, but sometimes for unselfish reasons. 

    I think most of us here feel the same as you do.  We're here, we're quee... wait a minute... no... we'll always be here for you and we don't expect anything in return really.  That's what friendship is.  (Though I do expect to see at least a footprint when I bitch about the wife's ex lol)

  • It is a  universal rule.

  • I love this about you.
    Personally though, I'm not with the title's concept right now. I've given, and given up for others' sake for too long.
    So now I'm gonna spend some time getting mine. Doesn't mean I won't listen to friends or be there for them, it just means the give/take ratio is changing for me.

    Nice guys don't finish last. They just let everyone else win. Its my turn to win, and if I leave a few bodies in my wake, they shouldn't have been swimming in front if my boat...

  • @grim_truth -  you were so close! Don't worry, we'll be here when you're strong enough to come out :p

  • @AgainstTheWind1 - I COMPLETELY understand what you're saying! You get yours! You deserve it and I mean that with every fiber of my being! *hugs*

  • I think besides the sheeple, we're all selfish, and they're just darwin awards waiting to happen.

  • @AgainstTheWind1 - if you don't like the way i drive stay off the sidewalk, eh? 

  • @complicatedlight -  when I want your opinion...
    Oops, non sequitur alert. Abort!

  • @Colorsofthenight -  just curious, are you a Mike Church fan? Just asking bc he uses "sheeple" more than anyone I've heard.

  • I think everyone is selfish sometimes. And from what I've seen of your posts and comments, you are supportive and nice to people.

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