People tend to judge others out of a pathological need to feel superior, whether christian or secular, and this tends to be more fierce in areas where peer pressure or social norms condone it, such as with puritanism.  This turns a lot of people off when it comes to churches and small towns, you get the sense of community and the social networking, but you also have everyone in your business and fierce gossip.  Whereas among secular people and in big cities you have less of a sense of community but also less harsh judgement, more understanding in some ways and anonymity.  No one cares what you do as long as you're not hurting anyone.

If you feel the way you do, imagine how gay people must feel.  Or the only atheist in a small town.

@trunthepaige -

"I get every little hostility personally
directed at me over my faith. In the real world so little that I worry
I'm being too secular. On Xanga its never been more the 7 people who
have a thing against me."

I'm confused, you're saying you have more people not liking you for being christian in the real world?  What kind of hostility to you receive and for what if I may ask?

"And they all seem to know each other. Bringing
up controversial ideas for discussion, or countering the constant
preaching by some of a personal group superiority based on a faith or as
you would say lack of it. Some people get emotional about it. If you
think what I said can go two ways, you got it it can and does."

I'm sure the world looks different from a christian person's perspective, as it does from mine.

"Calling
something a sin yet being guilty of it is not hypocrisy by itself .
When the admitted alcoholic damns alcohol, he is not a hypocrite for
doing so.  You do not need to sinless to know what a sin is and warn
others about it."

If it's a well intentioned warning, ie "I've struggled with alcohol, you don't want to end up where I am", then no.  But if it's a condescending judgemental tirade, then yes.  Like ted haggard mocking gays by saying "I know what you did last night, and if you give me ten thousand dollars I won't tell your wife" while taking it up the ass from a male prostitute and advising the president to oppose homosexuality.  Or limbaugh divorcing his wife for not giving him an open marriage after an MS diagnosis when he left his first wife after a cancer operation to be with his mistress - all the while championing the sanctity of marriage.  I bet "in sickness and in health, till death do us part" was his favorite part.

@trunthepaige - I meant gingrich, not limbaugh*

@SnoopsMama - There is not one prohibition in scripture against any of the things you mentioned.  The bible says not to say hateful things or make false accusations, none of the "cuss" words we use existed when the bible was written and it is literally impossible for the bible to condemn them.  Jesus never to my knowledge required people to attend mass and said "be not like the hypocrites who pray in the streetcorners and synagogues to be seen by men, for verily I say unto you they have received their reward".  He then goes on to tell people to pray in private and gives the "our father" as an example prayer.  And as far as anxiety being a sin, it's a neurological condition.  Do you know what a psychopath is?  Someone who is incapable of experiencing anxiety.  Serial killers are walking around incapable of feeling anxiety (which is part of what lets them go on killing sprees without a care in the world), are they holy?

Be glad you have to battle anxiety, it's one of the things that proves you're not a monster.  Besides, anyone who looks around at the world knows that if there is a god that doesn't mean bad things don't happen to people.  It isn't a sin to worry that your loved ones will get hurt or sick or that something bad will happen - by that logic am I a sinner for looking both ways before I cross the street?

@urdumania1 - I think you tagged the wrong person here.

@SnoopsMama - Glad to help : )  And we know the universe operates by certain statistical properties - I know for instance that if I cross the street blindfolded enough times I will eventually get hit by a car.  If I were crossing the street blindfolded I would thus feel anxiety.  Life is a lot like crossing the street, there are many things that can happen to us just by merit of existing - getting cancer, slipping in the shower and breaking our necks etc.  It's true we should try not to let fear consume us, but some fear is both rational and useful.  Just like some selfishness is useful.  If we were completely selfless we would give away all our belongings and starve to death naked in the streets.  The selfish impulse keeps us alive - it's just a problem when it gets out of hand and we care only about ourselves and start screwing other people over for our own benefit.  Fear is also extremely useful, without it you would probably not live very long.  It's only a problem when it becomes debilitating and becomes more of a hindrance than a help - but I don't think it's a sin, it's a hurtle to overcome.  Like with everything else the goal should be to maintain a healthy balance, to learn which feelings to try to suppress or manage and which ones to embrace.  We are born with a jumble of impulses and mechanisms in our minds, and they're often in direct conflict with each other.  What kind of person you are isn't determined by what impulses or feelings you have - it's determined by what you do with them - what actions you make.  And often the stronger the impulse the more strength or character it takes to overcome it.  The soldier on the battlefield who is the most afraid and stays and fights anyway is braver than the one that feels no fear.

My philosophy is focus on doing the best you can and don't even bother with guilt.