December 9, 2011

• Insensitive Jerks

  So, I've been wanting to talk about this for a while. The Duggar family sure brings out the best in everyone and, now that she's miscarried, it's bringing out even MORE of the insensitive jerks in some people. But, there's a few issues that I really would like to address.

  For example, the birth of Josie. Yeah, it was bad. But you can have a premature infant on your FIRST baby. So, is it just because she's had 19 that people feel the need to tell her to stop? And Doctors aren't God. Just because they may say, "OH, you'll surely die the next time you have a baby", doesn't mean it will happen. So, how does one really know that the next baby will A) kill her or B) the baby will either die or be born super early like the last one? Are you God or something? I had a premature baby the first go round, should I stop because of that risk happening again?

  I've also read that her having more babies, and possibly more miscarriages, is like a slap in the face to those who have constant miscarriages or can't have kids. Um... I'm sure it would be irritating to see a family have a ton of kids if that's what you truly want, but really? Why is that their concern? It's their family, their life. Who has the right to tell them how many kids they should have, if they can afford them and want them? To make other people feel better? That doesn't make any sense whatsoever.

  And then there's always the classic, "they should have just adopted and not popped out so many kids". Aside from my disgust at the use of the phrase "popping out kids", who gives you the right to dictate how they should have children? Yes, there are a lot of kids that need to be adopted. But, if we're all about  CHOICES (you know like the choice to kill an unborn baby and all), in this country, then they can CERTAINLY continue having as many kids as they want. That should be their CHOICE after all. Who gives you the right to tell them how to do things?

  It just infuriates me.

  I understand their situation isn't the norm, but that doesn't make it right to mock that family. Especially at this sensitive time. I don't care how many kids one has, a miscarriage would be hard to deal with. And the fact that people feel it's acceptable to make fun of them having an abortion and then give their opinion on the disgust of how many kids they have is DISGUSTING and immature.

  Also, if this is a sign she should stop having kids, what would you say to a woman who has had multiple miscarriages, with no kids? That that must be a sign to stop trying to having kids? That your body is giving you a sign that you're just not meant to have kids? Wouldn't you deem that a little INSENSTIVE?  Yeah, I would. Same goes for a woman who has 19 kids. SAME FREAKING THING. Miscarriages hurt and NO ONE, kids or no kids, should have to put up with insensitive comments.

  And I absolutely Love the excuse of, "well, they don't have internet so they won't be reading these comments...". Who cares? That suddenly makes it okay to be an insensitive jerk? No it doesn't. It most certainly DOES NOT!

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